At 20:39:02 on 04.10.10, lorned wrote:
about 7 weeks ago i had a really bad fall and i ended up with a spinal injury. im 16 and was doing a pony club exam when i fell. i was jumping a showjumping fence when my horse toke off to early and landed in the middle of the fence and i summer-saulted over her head and fliped on to my back. i was wearing a back protector. i ended up in hosiptal for 3 days. i was told i could ride again when i get better. my horse had to be put down as she pulled a tendon. i would love to ride again but i find that every time i look at my other horses in the yard i either end up crying or i just run back inside cause i cant face my fear....... is there anyway that i can get over my fear????? it would be so nice if you could help... lorne

At 01:13:14 on 11.10.10, Horsesarelife1001 wrote:
I know what you mean! I was riding a shire one day in the woods. It was all going great until my friend's horse bolted and we were galloping through the woods. I fell off and landed on my arm (Which I had JUST gotten of of a cast) and I was POSITIVE that my arm would be broken. I guess God wanted to be kind to me and my arm and ribs (the skin covering them) was REALLY bruised, but for the most part I wasn't broken. I was HORRIFIED!! Not kidding. I used to be a 100% PERFECT rider, No fears of ANYTHING! Then I felt like my world came tumbling down. I was so scared. I probably wouldn't have ridden again - and let me tell you that would have been a SHAME because riding IS my life- was the fact that my friends and I had plans to ride again the next day. I really did NOT want to, but there I was the next day on the mounting block. I took it SLOW! Do NOT st jump right into jumping again. BUT on that note, don't be too afraid to move on. "Falls make us better". Its true. Don't be stuck on that fall. Was it your first fall? If so, I know, its TERRIBLE! You just feel like you want to die. Its so scary, but think that MILLIONS of riders fall. Beezie Madden, Edward Gal, the greatest riders (in my opinion) have fallen, BUT what if they stopped? Look at what they did! I have fallen after the accident with the shire, and it is 10000% times less scary the 2ed, 3ed, 4th, ect, time. All I can say is take it nice and slow. Don't ride alone at first. Getting back on is the most important part. Hope I helped!!!!!!!!! OH! Also, If you have a FaceBook, look up :"Horseback Riding Fears by Jane Savoie" -- I'm NOT lying, she is AMAZING!!!!!!!!!

At 18:14:25 on 11.10.10, Angelalain wrote:
Lets be sensible about this. Seven weeks is not long when you've had a back injury. On top of that you lost your horse!. If you were doing aPC exam you are not a beginner, you are not a bad rider, you just need to give yourself time to get over this. Don't worry about riding, about getting back on right now, just go to the stables and see your other horses. You are lucky to have others to help you get through this. Go and groom, tidy their manes, love and cuddle them, they will make you feel better. Soon you will want to get back on, but don't rush. Go hacking, even take one of the gees for a walk in hand. You don't have to jump, theres so much else you could do. No-one will think any less of you for not jumping for as long as it takes. Look at it logically, you were jumping when it happened, so the rest of it needn't be scary. Do go and see your horses, I'm sure they miss you!

At 20:11:48 on 12.10.10, lorned wrote:
thanks guys for your advice.... im going to take things nice and slow. im back in school now so i have homework to stop me for blaming myself for what happened. i have noticed that my 148cm pony gets excited when he sees me in the yard so thats given me the confadence to at least give him some feed. as for my other horse shes only 4 and my mam says she is a little bit too heady for me to go into yet but in time when i get a little stronger i shall give her some love..... thanks for your help lorne..x.