At 22:58:46 on 03.10.10, CarolineP wrote:
Hi KatieB. If you notice, all the posts in this group are about the same thing. They're about how you feel. How you feel is connected to how and what you're thinking. So it doesn't matter whether your bad feelings are about jumping oxers, being as good as your friends, or cantering, being run away with or anything else - the cause is irrelevant really. Have a look through the posts in the group because there's lots of good advice (mine and others'!) that will help you. Basically, you need to stop thinking about your fall, stop posting and blogging about it, stop talking about it. As soon as you stop reinforcing those thoughts, they will begin to lose power. So that's tip number one. Next, I would advise you to take some Bach Flower Remedies (link for more info below) to help your emotional state. Star of Bethlehem for physical and mental shock and Cherry Plum for irrational thoughts would be a good start for you. Mental rehearsal, when you think about exactly how you would like to jump an oxer and practise this over and over again in your head, will also help you. You'll need to put some of your own energy into it, but if you're willing to do that, you'll start making progress. Good luck! Kind regards, Caroline
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At 01:17:04 on 05.10.10, luvtoride12 wrote:
losing my confidence due to a bucking horse.

At 19:29:54 on 06.10.10, CarolineP wrote:
Hi luvtoride12. Is this your horse or do you ride at a riding centre? I'm wondering how well you know the horse and what its behaviour is usually like. Either way, horses have to put a lot of energy into bucking and galloping about, so they usually have a good reason for doing it. I would get the horse checked out by a vet or other professional, especially its back and teeth. If nothing wrong can be found physically, then you might want to work with the horse from the ground to get its respect and cooperation before you start riding it again. Do keep yourself safe: bucking and galloping off on a regular basis is not the behaviour of a well-adjusted, respectful and cooperative horse. They all have their moments, but regular behaviour of this kind needs to be resolved. It sounds like you might need help to do this but it could be a very positive experience for you if you take it slowly and carefully. An animal communicator might be able to shed light on the reasons for this horse's behaviour, or an Intelligent Horsemanship RA could perhaps help you start to retrain it. Do get help if you need it and do keep yourself safe. Kind regards, Caroline
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